З життя
Чоловік придбав два маленькі квартири: для нас і для молодшої сестри, замість однієї двокімнатної для нас.
Замість купити двокімнатну квартиру для нас, чоловік вирішив придбати дві менші квартири — для нас і для своєї молодшої сестри. Я мріяла про двокімнатну квартиру і вже уявляла, як її облаштую. Нещодавно я зрозуміла, що мої плани, на жаль, не здійсняться…
Ми з чоловіком одружені вже 5 років, і весь цей час збирали гроші на власне житло. Насправді, саме мій чоловік працював і накопичував гроші, оскільки я займалася домом. Я мріяла про простору двокімнатну квартиру площею сімдесят квадратних метрів з великою кухнею і просторою вітальнею. Я вже уявляла, як ми зробимо ремонт і купимо нові меблі. Проте нещодавно я зрозуміла, що мої мрії не збулися. Замість купувати для нас двокімнатну квартиру, чоловік вибрав два менші житла — для нас і для своєї молодшої сестри.
Олексій думає, що я нічого не знаю про його плани і поки мовчить. Але я не є ні глухою, ні сліпою. Знала, що рано чи пізно так станеться. Досі я не втручалася. Я знала, що коли він їде до матері, це не лише для чаювання з пирогами, а розмова про його плани.
У його телефоні я знайшла закладки з переглянутими сайтами та пошукові запити. Були дзвінки, на які він не відповідав, але перетелефоновував, щойно виходив з дому. Коли настав час покупки, Олексій сказав, що збирається купити два менші житла і не може вчинити інакше.
Я не зовсім розуміла, чому чоловік вважав, що має борг перед родиною. Єдине, чим родина його забезпечила — це гарною освітою. З початку навчання він підробляв, а потім, коли почав заробляти більше, відкладав гроші на рахунок.
Після одруження ми орендували житло, тому що чоловік накопичував на покупку власного житла. Тепер, коли нарешті вдалося зібрати повну суму, ми маємо ділитися цим з його сестрою? Чому?
Олексій пояснив так: «Сестра має свої потреби. Ми дуже різні. Я заощадливий, відповідальний, цілеспрямований. А вона легковажна. Спочатку жила з одним хлопцем, потім з іншим. Не має власного кута, немає де виховувати дітей. Жінка в 26 років хоче мати своє місце, де буде створювати сім’ю та власне гніздо. Я почав відкладати гроші давно, знав, що витрачати їх на клуби та розваги — марно. Я обіцяв сестрі купити квартиру ще до нашого весілля.
Після розриву з партнером, вона переїхала до матері і також почала заощаджувати. Мама теж продала частину своїх прикрас і додала кілька тисяч. Спільними зусиллями зібрали на маленьку квартиру в новому будинку. Так справедливо. Я не міг би відпочивати з тобою на святах і жити в двокімнатній квартирі, знаючи, що моя сестра не має де жити. Не варто ображатися чи переживати. Я люблю тебе і зможу забезпечити нам життя. Трохи перепочинемо і будемо думати про придбання квартир для наших дітей».
Не знаю, що думати після слів чоловіка. З одного боку, він витратив наші спільні гроші на свою родину, з іншого — хотів допомогти сестрі. Це дає мені надію на те, що й мене він не покине в скрутній ситуації…
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