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«Я не дозволю, щоб моя мама опинилася в будинку для літніх людей!» — тітка з показним завзяттям забрала хвору бабусю до себе, а через три місяці ми дізналися, що вона відправила її до притулку для стареньких
«Я не дозволю своїй матері опинитися в будинку для літніх людей!» — з покровительською рішучістю сказала тітка, забираючи хвору бабусю до себе, а через три місяці ми дізналися, що вона віддала її до притулку для людей похилого віку.
Я ніколи не забуду той день, коли моя тітка Оксана, сестра моєї мами, з великим пафосом забрала до себе нашу хвору бабусю Олену. Це було справжнє шоу, сповнене гучних заяв, звинувачень і гірких сліз. Скільки ж образливих фраз тоді пролунало від неї! Вона кричала так голосно, що здавалося, її голос лунав по всьому селищу, наче вона хотіла, щоб кожен сусід у нашому маленькому містечку під Києвом знав, яка вона «праведниця», а які ми «байдужі».
— Я не дозволю, щоб моя мати гнила у будинку для старих! У мене є совість, не те що у вас! — кричала вона в обличчя мамі з такою люттю, що в мене досі мурашки по шкірі від тих спогадів.
Її слова звучали, наче цитати з книжки про сімейні цінності, але за ними ховалася лише злість і осуд. Вона виставляла себе героїнею, а нас — мало не зрадниками. Але проблема полягала не у совісті, а в тому, що бабуся насправді потребувала серйозної допомоги, яку ми вже не могли їй надати.
Все почалося після того, як у бабусі стався інсульт. Її здоров’я розсипалося, як картковий будиночок: пам’ять підводила, вона могла загубитися у власній кімнаті, часто плакала без причини, а її поведінка стала загадкою. Іноді з цим можна було впоратися, але такі моменти ставали все частішими й небезпечнішими. Одного разу ми повернулися додому і побачили картину, від якої кров застигла в жилах: всі лампи в будинку світилися, з кранів текла вода, а на газовій плиті був увімкнений вогонь. Бабуся сиділа в кутку і щось бурмотіла, не розуміючи, що ледве не спричинила пожежу. Дякувати Богу, ми встигли вчасно, інакше трагедії не уникнути.
Після чергового відвідування лікаря нам сказали страшну правду: стан бабусі буде тільки погіршуватися. Ліки могли трохи сповільнити цей кошмар, але сподіватися на диво не варто було. Ми зрозуміли, що вона більше не може доглядати за собою, а ми не в змозі бути поруч 24 години на добу. Робота, діти, побут — все це не відпускало нас, і серце рвалося від безсилля.
Після тривалих суперечок і сліз ми вирішили знайти гарний будинок для людей похилого віку, де про бабусю подбають професіонали, де їй буде затишно і безпечно. Ми не збиралися її залишати — ми хотіли дати їй найкраще, що могли знайти в цій ситуації. Але коли про це дізналася тітка Оксана, яка жила у сусідньому Львові, вона примчала до нас, мов фурія, готова знищити все на своєму шляху.
— Як ви можете думати про те, щоб здати рідну матір у притулок? У неї є діти, а ви хочете від неї позбутися, як від старих меблів! — кричала вона, іскрячись очима.
Її слова різали, як ножі. А потім, не слухаючи наших пояснень, просто забрала бабусю до себе, грюкнувши дверима так, що стекла затремтіли. Ми залишилися у тиші, оглушені її гнівом та власною розгубленістю.
Минуло три місяці. Три довгих місяці, сповнених тривоги за бабусю. І раптом до нас дійшла новина, яка перевернула все з ніг на голову: тітка Оксана здала бабусю до притулку для літніх людей. Так, та сама жінка, яка клялася своєю совістю і звинувачувала нас у бездушності, сама не впоралася. Виявилося, що догляд за хворою старенькою — це не гучні слова, а важка праця, до якої вона не була готова.
Іронія долі обпекла мене, як розпечене залізо. Хотілося набрати її номер і закричати в слухавку: «Де ж тепер твоя хвалена совість, тітко Оксано? Де твої обіцянки?» Але вона не брала телефон. Вочевидь, до неї дійшло, що вона перегнула палицю, що її гордість зіграла злий жарт. Тільки вибачитися чи визнати свою помилку їй не вистачило духу. Ми залишилися з гіркотою лицемірства, а бабуся — у чужих стінах, далеко від нас усіх.
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You Don’t Deserve It — “After my divorce, I thought I’d never be able to trust anyone again,” Andrew said, turning an empty espresso cup between his fingers. His voice broke and trembled so convincingly that Ksenia instinctively leaned closer. “You know, when you’ve been betrayed, it’s like losing a part of yourself. She left a scar I’ll never get over. I truly believed I wouldn’t survive it…” Andrew sighed heavily and talked for a long time—about the wife who never appreciated him, about the pain that wouldn’t let go, about how terrified he was to start over. Every word settled in Ksenia’s heart like a warm pebble, and she already imagined she’d be the woman to restore his faith in love. Together, they would heal his wounds. He’d finally see that real happiness was possible—with her. It wasn’t until their second date, between dessert and coffee, that Andrew mentioned Maxim… “I have a son, by the way. He’s seven. He lives with his mother, but spends every weekend with me. The court decided that.” “That’s wonderful!” Ksenia gave a bright smile. “Children are such a blessing.” She pictured Saturday morning breakfasts for three, trips to the park, cozy evenings watching TV. The boy would need a woman’s care, a mother’s warmth. She would be his second mum—not to replace the real one, of course, but to be someone close, someone he could rely on… “You’re really sure you don’t mind?” Andrew looked at her with an odd smirk that Ksenia mistook for distrust. “Most women run for the hills when they hear I have a child.” “I’m not most women,” she replied proudly. …The first weekend with Maxim was a proper celebration. Ksenia made blueberry pancakes—his favourite, as Andrew had warned her. She patiently sat with a maths textbook, making problems easy to understand, washed his dinosaur T-shirt, ironed his school uniform, made sure he was in bed by nine. “You should take a break,” she told Andrew one day, noticing how he sprawled out on the sofa with the remote in his hand. “I’ve got this.” Andrew nodded—gratefully, so she thought at the time. Now she realised it was the nod of a man accepting what was rightfully his. …Months became years. Ksenia worked as a manager in a logistics company—out at eight in the morning, back at seven at night. The pay was pretty decent, as far as London went. Enough for two. But there were three of them. “They’ve delayed the project again,” Andrew would announce as if reporting a natural disaster. “The client bailed. But there’s a big contract just round the corner, I promise.” The big contract hovered on the horizon for a year and a half. Sometimes it seemed closer, sometimes it drifted away, but it never actually arrived. The bills, on the other hand, showed up right on cue. Rent. Electricity. Internet. Groceries. Child maintenance for Marina. New trainers for Max. School fees. Ksenia paid the lot without complaint. She saved on lunches, brought in tubs of pasta, refused to take a taxi even in the pouring rain. She hadn’t splashed out on a manicure for over a year—did her own nails, trying not to think about how she used to afford pampering at the salon. In three years Andrew gave her flowers exactly three times. She remembered each bunch—cheap, slightly withered supermarket roses from the corner stall, the thorns already broken off. Probably a discount… The first bouquet came as an apology after Andrew called her hysterical in front of Max. The second—after a row when her friend visited with no warning. The third was brought home after he missed her birthday because he stayed out with his mates (or simply forgot…) “Andrew, I don’t need expensive presents,” she tried to keep her voice gentle, choosing every word. “But sometimes, I’d just like to know you’re thinking of me. Even a card…” His face twisted instantly. “Money, it’s always about money with you, isn’t it? Presents, presents. Does love mean anything to you? All I’ve been through, and you complain?” “I didn’t mean—” “You don’t deserve it.” Andrew spat the words at her like mud. “After everything I’ve done for you, you still find something to whinge about.” Ksenia fell silent. She always did—it was just easier that way. Easier to live, easier to breathe, easier to pretend everything was fine. Strangely, Andrew always managed to find money for nights out with friends. Pubs, watching the football, café meetups every Thursday. He’d come home tipsy and cheerful, reeking of sweat and cigarettes, falling onto the bed without noticing Ksenia was still awake. She told herself: this is just how things are. Love means sacrifice. Love means patience. He’ll change. Of course he’ll change. I just have to wait a bit longer, love him a bit harder, give him all the support he needs—he’s been through so much… …Any talk of a wedding was like walking through a minefield. “We’re happy as we are—why do we need a piece of paper?” Andrew would shrug off the subject as if batting away a fly. “After what happened with Marina, I need time.” “Three years, Andrew. Three years is a long time.” “You’re putting pressure on me! It’s always the same with you.” He’d storm out of the room and end the conversation. Ksenia really wanted children. Her own, flesh and blood. She was twenty-eight, and her biological clock seemed to tick louder every month. But Andrew wasn’t up for being a father again—he already had a son, and, in his mind, that was plenty. …That Saturday she only asked for one day. Just one single day. “The girls have invited me round. We haven’t seen each other in ages. I’ll be back by evening.” Andrew looked at her as if she’d just announced plans to run off to another continent. “And Max?” “You’re his dad. You can spend the day with your son.” “So now you’re abandoning us? On a Saturday? When I was planning to have a break?” Ksenia blinked. Then blinked again. In three years she had never left them alone. Not once. She cooked, cleaned, helped with schoolwork, did the washing, ironing—all while holding down a full-time job. “I just want to see my friends. For a few hours… And he’s your son, Andrew. Surely you can spend one day with him without me?” “You should love my son as you love me!” Andrew suddenly roared. “You’re living in my flat, eating my food, and now you’re showing your true colours?!” His flat. His food. Ksenia was the one paying the rent. Ksenia bought the food from her wages. For three years she’d supported a man who shouted at her for wanting a day with her friends. She looked at Andrew—at his twisted face, the vein bulging on his forehead, clenched fists—and for the first time, truly saw him. Not the tragic victim of fate, not some lost soul in need of saving, but a grown man who was a master at exploiting someone else’s kindness. To him, Ksenia wasn’t a beloved partner or a future wife—just a financial backer and unpaid housekeeper. Nothing more. When Andrew left to drop Max off with Marina, Ksenia pulled out a travel bag. Her hands moved calmly, confidently—no shaking, no doubt. Passport. Phone. Charger. A couple of T-shirts. Jeans. The rest she could buy later. The rest didn’t matter. She didn’t bother leaving a note. What was the point of explaining things to someone who never really saw her anyway? The door closed quietly behind her. No drama. The phone calls started within the hour. First one, then another, then a deluge—an incessant ringing that made the phone vibrate in her hand. “Ksenia, where are you?! What’s going on?! I come home and you’re not here! How dare you? Where’s dinner? Am I supposed to go hungry? What’s all this nonsense?” She listened to his voice—angry, demanding, full of self-righteous outrage—and was amazed. Even now, when she’d left, Andrew only thought about himself. His inconvenience. Who would cook for him now? Not a single “sorry.” Not one “are you okay?” Just “how dare you.” Ksenia blocked his number. Then she found his profile in her chat app—blocked it. Social media—blocked. Every avenue he could use to reach her, she built a wall. Three years. Three years of living with a man who didn’t love her. Who used her kindness like it was disposable. Who convinced her that sacrificing herself was what love was all about. But love isn’t like that. Love doesn’t humiliate. Love doesn’t turn a living, breathing person into the hired help. Ksenia walked through the London evening—and, for the first time in ages, breathing came easy. She vowed to herself: never again would she confuse love with self-sacrifice. Never again would she rescue those who only trade on pity. Always, from now on, she would choose herself. Only herself.
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