My Husband Decided to Send Our Son to the Countryside to Stay with His Mum, Against My Wishes

Dear Diary,

Simon decided, without consulting me, to send our nineyearold son Harry to his mothers cottage in Ashwick, a remote village in the Cotswolds. I could hardly believe it.

Simon, youre joking, arent you? Tell me this is some halffinished prank after a long day at the office, I halfshouted, clutching a plate that never made it to the drying rack. Water streamed down the kitchen tiles, but I didnt notice it. Simon sat at the table, calmly chewing his pork chop, his face as impassive as a stone. He didnt even glance up, as if we were discussing a new rug for the hallway rather than the fate of our only child for the next three months.

No jokes, love, Simon finally said, wiping his mouth with a napkin. Ive already called Martha. Shes expecting Harry by the first of June. I bought the tickets at lunchstandard sleeper, lower berth, everything as it should be.

Tickets? Without telling me? I set the plate down with a clang that sounded like a gunshot in the quiet kitchen. Simon, we discussed this a month ago! Harrys robotics camp is in June. We paid a deposit! Hes been looking forward to it for half a year, and his friends have already arranged rides!

Simon grimaced as if he had a toothache and pushed the empty plate away.

Robotics, computers, gadgets Look at him! Hes pale as a ghost and cant even lift a mouse. He needs proper male upbringingfresh air, hard work, not a stuffy city life with the airconditioning on all day. His mother will be alone, the garden huge, the fence leaning. Let him help out, get some health, and be useful to Grandma.

What use, Simon? My anger, cold and bubbling, rose like steam. Your mother lives in a backwater hamlet where the nearest pharmacy is a thirtymile dirt road away! Theres no running waterjust a well you have to boil for an hour to make it safe. Harry is an allergic child! Remember last year when we had to take him to AE after he sniffed some wildflower in the park? The blooming, the haycutting, the dust!

Dont make things up, Simon waved me off, standing up. I grew up therehealthy as a bull, you see. Allergies are just the citys sterile environment. A bit of raw milk, a run barefoot on the dewy grass, and his allergies will clear. Grandma even has a goat now, and the milk is supposed to be medicinal.

I lowered myself onto a chair, knees trembling. I knew Valerie Clarke wella formidable, oldschool woman who would treat a sore throat with kerosene and bruised knees with plantain, after cursing it. She dismissed modern medicine with a shrug: Thats how we were raised, and we survived.

I wont let him go, I said quietly but firmly. I wont let you gamble with our sons health for your nostalgic fantasy of a country childhood or to save a few pounds on the camp.

Simon, already at the door, turned sharply. His face darkened.

This isnt about saving money! Yes, we could reclaim the camp fee; the car needs repairs anyway. Its about principle. Im the father, and I decide. The boy must become a man, not a greenhouse plant. Hes going. End of discussion.

He slammed the kitchen door, rattling the glass in the sideboard. The next room, Harry was obliviously playing on his handheld, unaware that his summer of robots and friends had just turned into a stint on a farm.

I realized shouting wouldnt change Simons mind; he was backed by Valerie, who constantly complained on the phone that she never saw her grandson and that the daughterinlaw has spoiled the boy. I needed a subtler approach.

When the evening settled, I slipped into the bedroom where Simon lay with a book, deliberately ignoring me.

Alright, I said calmly, sitting on the edge of the bed. Ive thought about what you said. Maybe youre right. Fresh air wont hurt him.

Simon lowered his book, surprised. He had expected another tirade, tears, a threat of divorcenothing like this.

Well then, he said smugly, I told you, youre a smart woman, Emily. Youll see Im right.

Yes, I nodded. But theres one condition.

What condition? he asked.

You take two weeks of unpaid leave and come with him. Help Grandma settle in, keep an eye on his health, and make sure he copes with the change. You said the fence was leaning; Harry cant fix that. You, as a man, should show him how to wield a hammer.

Simon fell silent.

Emily, I cant. Its the crunch period at work; the boss wont let me. I thought Id just drop him off for a day and be back. The mother would look after him.

No, Simon. Either you spend those two weeks with him and take responsibility, or he stays here. Ill withhold his birth certificate and hide his belongings. Call the police if you must. This is my final word. If you want male upbringing, do it yourself, facetoface.

Simon stared at the ceiling, weighing his options. He didnt want to swap his comfortable office and cushy sofa for mosquitoes and potato digging, but his pride was wounded.

Fine, he muttered. Ill sort something at work. Two weeks. After that Ill go back, and hell stay until August.

Lets see, I replied, a faint smile tugging at my lips. I knew Simons rural toughness was limited to weekend barbecues.

Packing felt like preparing for an Arctic expedition. Harrys suitcase was halffilled with a firstaid kit: antihistamine tablets, drops, creams, an inhaler, sorbents, plaster.

Mom, why do I have to go? Harry whined, clutching a box of LEGO he wasnt allowed to take. Grandma Val wants me to drink goat milk! It makes me sick, and theres no internet!

Harry, its only for a short while, I soothed, ruffling his head. Dad will be with you. Go fishing, run to the stream. If anything goes wrong, call me straight away. Ive given you a spare phonekeep it hidden in your backpack, fully charged.

At the station, I watched Simon lug a massive sack of provisions for his mother and his own suitcase. The excitement in his eyes had faded.

The first three days at the cottage were quiet. I refunded the camp deposit but didnt rush to spend the money; my gut told me it might be useful later. Simons texts were brief: Weve arrived, Its hot, Mosquitoes are monsters. Harry didnt call, which worried me more than anything.

On the fourth day, the phone rang. It wasnt Simon or Harryit was Valerie.

Emily! What have you sent my grandson? He wont eat anything! I made a hearty mushroom soup, but he turns his nose up. No cabbage pies, no picklesjust bread and water. Hes spoilt by your yoghurts!

Valerie, Harry is on a dietno rich foods, his gallbladder is delicate. I gave Simon the list, I replied evenly.

What list? I threw it away! A man should eat everything! Hes lazyasked me to weed the garden and after five minutes he complained about back pain and the sun. Simon, your son sleeps till noon, says hes stressed from work. Who will fix the fence? Pushkin?

I stifled a laugh. The plan was working.

Valerie, you wanted the grandson and the son. Raise him. Simon promised to help. Let him work.

Later that evening Simon called, his voice weary and irritated.

Emily, you have no idea whats happening here. Its thirty degrees in the shade, the house is steamy, theres no airconditioning, flies buzzing like bombers. Mums been busy all daywater, firewood, roof repair. Ive already twisted my back.

Poor thing, I said, feigning sympathy. You wanted fresh air and hard labour. Hows Harry?

Hes fine sitting in a makeshift hut he built himself, not mixing with the local lads. Mum says hes wild. By the way, hes developed red spots on his arms and keeps sneezing.

My heart lurched.

What spots?

Red, itchy. Mum says its nettles or mosquito bites. She smeared cream on him.

Cream? Simon! He has a firstaid kit! Give him an antihistamine now! No folk remedies! Send me a photo.

Within minutes a picture arrived: Harrys arms covered in a classic allergic rash, eyes swollen.

I called back instantly.

Simon, listen. This is an allergic reactionprobably to some grass or that goats milk you praised. Give him the blue tablet and the greenstriped ointment. No more home remedies. If it doesnt clear by morning, take him to the district hospital.

Emily, the bus to the hospital runs once a day! I left the car with my brother Mike at the garage; hes tinkering with the carburettor.

You left the car with a local mechanic? I exclaimed, clutching my head. If anything happens to the boy Ill come and tear this village apart with you!

That night I lay awake, pacing the cottage, jumping at every ring of the phone. At dawn Harry called, voice trembling.

Mum, please pick me up I feel horrible. Grandma says Im scratching on purpose to avoid work. Dads angry, shouting. The toilet smells, big spiders My stomach hurts.

Tears welled in my eyes.

Hold on, love. Hold on. Is Dad there?

Hes gone fishing with Mike. He said he needed to treat his nerves with a pint.

Ah, nerves I whispered. Alright, Harry. Pack your things quietly, so Grandma doesnt see. Ill be there soon.

I shut the phone and sprang into action. Waiting for Simon to recover was not an option. I checked train times; the next service was that evening, but it meant a long night on the tracks. I called my brother Oliver.

Oi, Ollie, can you help? I need a car, three hundred miles, to rescue Harry and maybe pull your dumb brotherinlaw out of a barn?

Oliver, ever the goodnatured uncle, didnt ask questions. Within an hour we were on the highway.

Five hours later we pulled up to the crooked fence of Valeries cottage. The scene was almost comic: Simon, sunburnt, in boxer shorts, trying to hammer a fence board. The nails bent, the hammer missed. Valerie stood beside him, arms crossed, berating his every move.

Whos that? Youre whacking it like a clumsy oarsman! she shouted. Your father could have knocked a fence down with one swing. You barely manage a keyboard!

Harry sat on the porch, legs in green bandages, face swollen, eyes red. He stared at a point on the wall, not even playing with his handheld.

I leapt out of the car before it stopped.

Harry!

He sprang up, hugging me, relief and tears mixing on his cheeks.

Mum! Youre here!

Simon dropped his hammer, eyes wide with a mixture of fear and shame.

Lena? What are you doing here? he croaked.

Im here for my son, Simon. And for you, if you can still stand.

Valerie, seeing her daughterinlaw, forced a sugary smile.

Oh, dear Emily! Come in, were fixing the fence, the garden Harry, give Grandma a kiss, your mothers arrived, what joy! Ill put the kettle on, make some scones

No scones, Valerie, I snapped, not letting Harry slip from my arms. Were leaving right now.

How can you leave? We just got here! Look at Harryhes rosycheeked now! Valerie wailed.

Thats not rosy, thats swelling from an allergic reaction! Simon shouted, clutching his chest. He leaned on the fence. Emily, take him. I didnt think it would be like this. I forgot how hard it is here, how the insects bite, how the mothers pressure feels.

What did you forget, Simon? I asked, eyes locked on him.

You forgot how brutal it is, how the insects itch, how youre supposed to be a man, fishing and milk, not real life.

Valerie exploded, Traitor! You swapped your mothers love for city comforts! I raised you, sleepless nights! You want to take my grandson to the internet, to ruin him! Youre a weakwilled wimp!

Simon looked at his mother, a stare that seemed to say goodbye to childhood dreams.

Enough, Mum. Enough. He turned to me. Ill give you the money for the fence and the roof. Hire some locals. Were city folk, we dont belong here.

Oliver, help us pack, I commanded my brother.

We gathered our things in fifteen minutes. Harry clung to the car door, fearing hed be forgotten. Valerie stomped back into the garden, slamming the gate.

On the road, the car was quiet except for the hum of the airconditioner. Harry fell asleep on the back seat, his head on Olivers lap.

Simon sat beside me, eyes fixed on the passing fields.

Forgive me, Emily, he whispered, not looking at me.

For what? I asked softly.

For everything. For not listening. For stubbornly thinking I was doing right. I wanted to make a man out of him, but I acted like a petulant boy trying to recapture his own lost childhood.

I exhaled, the anger draining, leaving fatigue and a strange relief.

Male upbringing isnt about making a kid dig potatoes under a scorching sun or forcefeeding him a greasy stew. Its about owning up to your mistakes and protecting your family. Today you finally did that, when you said it was time to leave.

He turned toward me.

Do you think its not too late for the robotics camp?

The places are taken, but theres a second session in July.

Lets pay for it tomorrow. Ill take the remainder of my leave and drive him there and back. Well walk in the park in the evenings, the one in the city without nettles.

And a warm toilet, Harry muttered from the back seat, halfasleep.

We all laughed. The tension of the past week dissolved.

Back in London we gave Harry a proper shower, applied a soothing cream, and ordered a massive, indulgent pizzaexactly the kind of unhealthy city food wed missed. Simon curled on the sofa, holding Harry, watching a robotbuilding video on a tablet.

I watched them from the kitchen, realizing my relationship with Valerie would likely remain strained, perhaps forever. She would never forgive this escape. But seeing my sons bright smile and my husband finally acting like a grownup, I felt no regret. Sometimes you have to step into someone elses world to truly appreciate your own.

A week later Simon called his mother. The conversation was brief; he transferred some money, asked about Harrys health, and said nothing about bringing the grandson back. Valerie seemed to understand, though pride kept her silent.

Harry joined the second robotics camp. At the end of summer he brought home a selfbuilt robot that could follow a line. Simon beamed with a pride Id never seen when it came to a garden fence.

Thats the kind of growth I like, he said, admiring the wires and chips. A proper man, not a fencehammerer.

Emily and I exchanged a smile. The lesson was learned: a village can be charming in pictures, but raising a child is best done where theyre safe and happy.

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