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My Mom Is Certain My Girlfriend Is Only Dating Me for the Flat

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My mum is convinced my girlfriend is only with me for the flat.

I live with her in a spacious three-bedroom apartment right in the heart of London. The place came to us after my parents divorcemy dad left, handing everything over to us. At first, he kept in touch, calling me now and then to check in, but over the years, those calls became fewer. Now, he only reaches out with cold, automated messages during holidays.

Mum never managed to rebuild her love life. A few men passed through, but none made it past two or three dates. Maybe she didnt really want to, or maybe she just never found someone who could replace my dad.

As for me, relationships have always been tricky. Ive had dates, outings, but nothing serious ever stuck. I never clung to a relationship just to avoid being alone. If there wasnt that spark, Id say so outrightwasting my time or someone elses never made sense to me.

Then, one day, everything changed in the most unexpected way.

I met the love of my life.

The moment I locked eyes with Emily, I knew this was different. Right from the start, I felt a rare, powerful connection between us. I was lost in her, desperate to spend every free second by her side.

Emily had moved to London from a small village in the Cotswolds. Shed enrolled at university and was fighting to build a new life in the city. Shes ambitious, clever, kind, and breathtakingly beautiful. We grew close at lightning speed, started dating, and for the first time, I tasted pure, radiant happiness.

But what was bliss for me became an open wound for my mum.

She rejected my choice with fury.

Ive always been honest with her. She knew about every girl Id ever seenI never hid a thing. So when I told her about Emily, I expected the usualmaybe a bit of wariness, but also natural curiosity.

Instead, a storm erupted.

She wouldnt even listen. The second I mentioned Emily wasnt from London, she cut me off, shouting that this girl was only with me for my status, my comfort, and above all, our flat.

I was stunned, rooted to the spot.

Where had this idea come from? How could she judge someone shed never met, never spoken to, never even heard?

Mum locked herself in relentless hostility against our relationship. She started making scenes, screaming until her voice cracked, collapsing in tears, hammering into me that I was about to make the worst mistake of my life. To her, Emily was just using mea way to settle in the cityand shed shatter my heart before tossing me aside like rubbish.

I tried to defend myself, to explain that Emily had never hinted at wanting to move in. She had her own rented place, never asked me for money or help. Shes independent, used to relying on herself.

But Mum wouldnt budgeunyielding as stone.

The pressure that crushed me.

At first, I tried to ignore her words. I trusted Emily. I knew she wasnt with me for the flat. But when you hear the same accusations day after day, doubt creeps in like slow poison.

I caught myself listening to Mums venomous whispers.

I dissected Emilys every move, searching for hidden motives where there were none.

Why was she so attentive? Was it an act? Why did she buy me gifts? Was she plotting something?

I was driving myself mad.

Emily, of course, noticed something was off. Shed ask if I was alright, if something had happened. I wanted to tell her everything, but shame froze me, gripping my throat like an invisible hand.

How do I tell the woman I love that my own mother thinks shes a heartless flat-hunter?

Love or family?

The conflict with Mum reached unbearable heights.

She gave me an ultimatum, cold and sharp as a blade: either I broke up with Emily, or I could forget having a normal relationship with her.

I was lost, teetering on the edge, my heart in tatters.

On one side, theres my mum. She raised me, looked after me, and I feel this crushing duty, a debt I cant ignore.

But on the otherdont I deserve my own happiness? Dont I have the right to love the woman my heart chose?

Mum refused to hear my pleas. Her certainty was a steel wall, unbreakable.

I knew I had to make a choice.

But which one?

Im terrified of getting it wrong. The thought of losing the woman I love more than anything shakes me to the corebut Im not ready to cut ties with my mum.

What if shes just afraid of ending up alone, abandoned in silence? Or does she really see something my love blinds me to?

Im torn between duty and passion, stretched to breaking point. And right now, I dont know how to fix it.

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