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My Son Put Me in a Nursing Home… and Now He’s Asking Me for Money to Pay for His Wedding

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I never thought my golden years would smell like disinfectant and lukewarm soup.

I pictured myself at seventy with red lipstick, dancing waltz on Sundays in Hyde Park, flirting with the old boys from the local club, sipping tea with scones while chatting about politics or football.

But no.

Reality dumped me in a care home called “Horizons of Life,” which sounds poetic but has more locked doors than a prison.

My son brought me here on a Tuesday, right after lunch.

“Mum, youll be better off here,” he said, using that guilty-lamb voice he pulls when hes about to do something awful. “Youll have company, medical care, activities…”

“Oh, brilliant,” I shot back. “While youre at it, leave me your credit card, and Ill book myself a luxury cruise.”

He didnt answer. Just gave me one of those quick, guilt-avoiding kisses and left. I stared at the white ceiling, the bleach smell clinging to my skin, thinking if this was “the best for me,” Id rather have the worst.

The first few days were rough. I couldnt sleepone of my roommates, Margaret, snores like shes got a tractor in her chest, and the other, Doris, hides everyones socks “to see if theyll look for them,” like some twisted psychology experiment.

But I adjusted. People underestimate the elderlythey dont realise how bendy we can be when weve got no choice. I do chair yoga (though I look like a crumpled paper crane), play bingo three times a week, and befriended a lovely bloke named Mr. Albert, who proposes to me daily.

“Love, you and I would make a fine pair,” he says, holding out a plastic daisy.

“Sure, Albert, but first, remember my name,” I always reply.

He laughs. I laugh. Truth is, Im having a better time than I expected.

Then one Sunday, my son turned up unannounced. He had that suspicious grin Ive known since he was fivethe “Mum, I need something” smile.

“Muuuum!” he dragged out, like he used to when begging for sweets.

“Go on, then. Whatve you broken now?” I crossed my arms.

“Nothing! Its just… Im getting married.”

I raised an eyebrow.

“Really? Blimey, didnt think anyone was that brave.”

He laughed awkwardly. I didnt.

“Well, Mum, weddings are expensive… thought you might chip in?”

“Chip in? You moved me here because you said there wasnt room! Now you want me to bankroll your fancy do?”

He gave me the sad-puppy eyes. I gave him the look of a mum whos seen too many puppies and knows they always chew the wrong shoe.

“Let me get this straight,” I said. “You park me here, surrounded by old dears fighting over the telly remote, and now you want my money for posh canapés at your wedding?”

“Its not posh canapés, Mum, its a proper venue.”

“Proper my foot. Why not get married here? Ill lend you my bingo ladies as bridesmaids, and well make Albert the vicarhe even knows how to say I do!”

He went red as a beetroot.

“Mum, Im serious.”

“So am I,” I said. “If you want a party, make it potluckeveryone brings a dish, problem solved.”

He clutched his head.

“I cant believe you wont help me.”

“Oh, Ive helped plenty, love,” I said. “Gave you life, changed your nappies, held you when your first girlfriend dumped you, even co-signed your car loan. My mum-investor contracts expired.”

He went quiet. The nurse walking past winked at me. Pretty sure every mum in the home wouldve clapped.

In the end, I didnt give him money. Just something betteradvice worth more than a cheque.

“Listen, son. Marriage needs three things: love, patience, and wanting to share your life. The restthe venue, the cake, the flowersthats all on hire purchase. And Im not paying the instalments.”

He sighed, kissed my forehead, and slunk off.

I watched him go from the dining room window, smiling. Because I realised I still have something to givenot cash, but wisdom.

That night, Albert proposed again.

“What dyou say, love? Fancy a wedding do in the dining hall?”

“Only if you promise not to snore on our wedding night,” I said.

We both laughed.

As the care home quietened down, filled with the scent of soup and nostalgia, I thought maybe Im not so bad off here. Im still useful. Still teaching. Still alive.

And when my sons wedding day comesif Im invitedIll show up in my reddest dress, my shiniest walking stick, and toast with my bingo mates.

Because even if he left me here, Ive got something he doesnt: experience… and a sense of humour.

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