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One Day, My Daughter’s Husband Decided They No Longer Needed My Help and Asked Me to Leave Their Home
My daughter married an Englishman. I lived with them for two years, looking after my grandson and keeping the house in order.
Both my daughter and her husband worked at the same company and only came home in the evenings. I really believed Id stay with them permanently, but it turns out my hopes were misplaced. One day, my son-in-law quite directly told me they no longer needed my help and asked me to move out. Within a month, I was back in my own flat. To my dismay, I discovered I wasnt exactly welcomed there either. While Id been at my daughters, my son had separated from his first wife, left her flat and moved into mine.
He brought along his new wife, already expecting a child. It never even crossed his mind to ask my permission.
What am I meant to do? Throw my son and his pregnant wife out? Of course not. But how are threesoon to be fourof us supposed to live together in a one-bedroom council flat? For what its worth, neither my son nor I can afford to rent another place. I rang my daughter, hoping shed understand the situation and maybe at least call me back. She didnt. Its a pity, but I cant change the way she and her husband see things. They live in a world of their own now.
My sons reaction is at least understandable; he never expected me to return. Now I sleep on the sofa in the kitchen. By day, I leave the flat, do the shopping, visit my old workplace and chat with some old colleagues. My son and I manage civil conversation, never arguments, but my daughter-in-law acts as though Im invisible. Its painfully clear shes unhappy with me being around.
Never would I have imagined that by sixty, Id become so unnecessary, or that another woman would be the one in charge under my own roof. My son thinks only of his pregnant wife, and seems blind to the housing problem we all share.
Im searching for part-time work. My daughter-in-laws parents live in the countryside. Should I suggest she move in with them for now? But what work would my son find there? Not much, Id wager. I cant seem to decide what the right thing isOne afternoon, as I sat on a bench in the little park near our flat, an older woman in a bright scarf sat beside me. She smiled, and before long we were deep in conversation about her grandchildren, her memories of the city, the little irritations of living with family. When I left, she pressed a slip of paper into my handa number for a local community center looking for volunteers with experience in childcare.
That evening, my phone lit up unexpectedly; my grandsons name flashed on the screen. His childish voice poured through the speaker, all laughter and innocence: Grandma, I miss your stories! For the first time in months, I let myself crynot out of loneliness, but relief. I hadnt been erased, only moved to the margins. I could claim new spaces.
I called the community center. Within a week, I was surrounded by children again, telling tales in two languages, watching eyes go wide with wonder. I felt needed. My son and his wife adjusted; our kindnesses to each other became small but genuine, morning tea, folded laundry, silent thanks echoing through cramped living space.
Sometimes, the future knocks softly. It doesnt bring what youve lost, but something altogether unimagined: a table in a crowded room, the echo of applause after a story, a grandsons laughter crackling through the phone. At sixty, I am not unnecessaryI am simply gathering my love in new places, and finding myself, again, at the center of a life that moves forward.
