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The Woman Who Walked Out on Her Husband and Children—Two Days Later, She Received a Letter That Chan…
The woman fled her home, leaving behind her husband and children. Two days later, she received a letter.
After returning from work, the father decided he deserved a quiet evening, lost in the glow of a Premier League match on the telly, shrugging off all thoughts of housework or parenting. The childrens squabbles rang out through the house, but he ignored them, refusing to help with the bedtime struggle.
But that night everything changed. The front door was slammed so hard the windows rattled. His wife had finally lost her patience and stormed out. The children were left behind with their father. In that instant, the tranquil world of a man enjoying a pint in his armchair was utterly overturned. A few days later, he wrote this letter to his wife:
My dearest Emily,
We had that argument a few nights ago. I came home absolutely knackered. It was eight oclock and all I wanted was to sprawl on the sofa and watch the footie.
You seemed on edge, worn out past your limits. The children were shouting and fighting as you tried to get them into their pyjamas.
I turned the volume up, hoping to drown it all out.
You wouldnt drop dead if you helped out a bit or did your share bringing up the kids, would you? you said, turning down the telly.
Frustrated, I snapped back, I work all day so you can sit at home and play with dollhouses.
The arguments flew thick and fast. You were in tearsexhausted and angry. I said cruel things. You shouted back that you couldnt take it anymore. You dashed out, leaving me alone with the children.
I had no choice but to feed them and tuck them in on my own. You didnt come home the next day. I called in to work, took time off, and stayed in with the kids.
I went through all their tears and tantrums.
I was running ragged from one room to the next, never even catching a moment for a shower.
I spent the day at home without once talking to anyone over the age of ten.
I never sat and enjoyed a meal there was always something to do, someone to watch over.
I was so bone-tired that I could have slept for a week, but its impossibletheres always a child crying every three hours.
Two days and a night without you, and everything became clear.
I realised how exhausted you must be.
Now I understand: being a mum is a never-ending sacrifice.
Its harder than putting in a ten-hour shift behind a desk making big decisions about money.
I see that you gave up your career and any financial independence to raise our children.
I get how difficult it must feel when the money doesnt come from you, but from your partner instead.
I appreciate what you sacrifice every time you turn down a coffee with friends or a workout at the gym. You cant even enjoy a favourite hobby or get a good nights sleep.
I realise what it must feel like to be closed in with the kids, missing out on everything else going on in the world.
No wonder youre hurt when my mother criticises your parenting. No one knows our children better than you do.
I see now that mothers have the greatest responsibility in our society, and sadlytoo oftenit goes ignored or uncelebrated.
Im not writing all of this just to tell you how much I miss you. I never want another day of your life to pass without hearing this:
You are so brave, you do an incredible job, and I admire you more than words can say.
The roles of wife, mother, and homemakerthough the most vitalare all too often the least valued. Please share this letter with your friends, so maybe, we can start recognising and praising the most important work in the worldthe work of being a mum.
