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У 27 років моє життя на роздоріжжі: мати чекає на мою підтримку, а я намагаюся побудувати життя з коханою.

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Мені 27 років, і моє життя на переломі. Моя мати, яка ніколи не працювала, очікує, що я буду її утримувати, в той час як я намагаюся побудувати власне життя з жінкою, яку кохаю. Оксана, моя наречена, для мене все, але мати не хоче цього прийняти.

Мати живе в квартирі, яку отримала після розлучення з моїм батьком. Вона її здає, і це її єдине джерело доходу. Я, з іншого боку, важко працюю, щоб забезпечити собі майбутнє. Тепер, коли я хочу одружитися і створити сім’ю, мати ставить все більше перепон.

Оксана і я познайомилися в університеті. З першої миті я знав, що вона та єдина. Ми хочемо створити сім’ю, але мати це не приймає. Вона каже, що ми надто молоді, що нам слід почекати. Але Оксана і я знаємо, що наше кохання достатньо сильне, щоб подолати всі труднощі.

Мати каже, що у неї немає грошей, що вона не може знайти роботу. Але я знаю, що вона може спробувати. Вона знає, що здавання в оренду квартири є її єдиним джерелом доходу, але не хоче розуміти, що я теж мушу думати про своє майбутнє. Я хочу, щоб у нас з Оксаною було власне місце, де ми змогли б будувати наше життя разом.

Мати виховувала мене сама після розлучення з батьком, який був алкоголіком. Вона зробила все, щоб у мене було краще життя, але тепер, коли я хочу приймати власні рішення, ставить мені перепони. Вона каже, що дбає про мене, але насправді не хоче зрозуміти, що я мушу піти своїм шляхом.

Оксана і я подали заяву на шлюб. Ми хочемо, щоб наше спільне життя стало реальністю, але мати не хоче цього прийняти. Вона говорить, що не може утримувати себе, але я знаю, що вона сильніша, ніж думає. Я хочу, щоб вона зрозуміла, що мушу йти за своїм серцем і що Оксана для мене все.

Я відчував себе розірваним між любов’ю до матері і любов’ю до Оксани. Я хочу, щоб обидві жінки в моєму житті були щасливі, але мати не хоче цього зрозуміти. Мені доводиться обирати між лояльністю до матері та любов’ю до Оксани, і це вибір, який змінить моє життя назавжди.

Оксана, яка приїхала до міста на навчання, не має підтримки сім’ї. У її батьків ще є молодші діти, і вона мусить справлятися сама. Незважаючи на це, вона впевнена у собі і має великі плани на майбутнє. Ми хочемо разом створити дім, в якому зможемо підтримувати один одного і будувати нашу спільну мрію.

Мати часто згадує, якими важкими були часи після розлучення, як їй довелося працювати над собою, щоб дати мені краще життя. Але тепер, коли я намагаюся будувати власне життя, відчуваю, що вона не розуміє моїх потреб і мрій. Я хочу, щоб вона зрозуміла, що хочу бути щасливим, що хочу мати сім’ю і що Оксана — ключ до мого щастя.

Я кожного дня намагаюся знайти рішення, щоб ми з матір’ю могли дійти згоди. Я хочу, щоб вона знала, що не хочу залишати її без підтримки, але що мушу йти за своїм серцем. Оксана і я плануємо майбутнє, в якому зможемо підтримувати один одного і будувати міцну сім’ю.

Моє життя зараз на роздоріжжі, і мені потрібно прийняти складне рішення. Я хочу, щоб мати зрозуміла, що її щастя для мене важливе, проте я також мушу думати про своє щастя і майбутнє. Оксана для мене все, і я хочу, щоб мати прийняла цей факт, щоб я міг побудувати життя, про яке завжди мріяв.

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