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Відсудити квартиру у дітей: чому я не соромлюся жити для себе навіть на схилі літ.

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Вирішила я відвоювати свою квартиру у власних дітей. І зовсім за це не відчуваю жодного сорому. Хоча і скоро мені буде вісімдесят, але зі здоров’ям все гаразд. Дуже хочеться провести останні роки життя для себе.

Часто буває так, що в старшому віці люди починають шкодувати про те, як прожили своє життя. Розмірковують, як могли б зробити все краще, в які моменти вчинити інакше, щоб результат був зовсім інший. Ось чому намагаються вмовити своїх дітей не повторювати їх помилок.

Я ж вирішила порушити всі ці стереотипи. В старості житиму для себе. Адже все своє життя присвятила чоловікові, дітям і онукам. Ледь закінчила школу, як вийшла заміж. Згодом з’явилися діти, і часу для себе вже не залишилось. Майже весь мій час був відданий родині. А зараз, коли вже майже вісімдесят, нікому поруч мене не потрібно бачити. Діти вже почуваються в моїй квартирі, наче це їх власна. Мене, таке відчуття, вже давно не існує. Рідний син без мого дозволу поселив в моїй квартирі онука з дружиною. Моя думка їх давно не цікавить. Така «подяка» за роки виховання.

Тому я вирішила повернути свою квартиру. І зовсім мені не соромно за це. Хоча і скоро мені буде вісімдесят, зі здоров’ям все гаразд. Дуже хочу провести останні роки для себе. Звичайно, всі родичі образилися. Почали навіть судову справу, але завдяки моєму чоловіку мені вдалося повернути квартиру. Також виселила онука з його дружиною з моєї власності. Змінила всі замки на дверях для власного спокою. Звісно, після моєї смерті квартира залишиться дітям. Але поки я жива, хочу насолоджуватися моментами, які так бракували протягом життя. Адже стільки безцінного часу було змарновано.

Мої подруги шоковані, але відкрито підтримують мене. У них не вистачає відваги вчинити так само, бо їх діти вже доручили їм правнуків, не цікавлячись, важко їм чи ні. Я дуже здивована, як вони себе настільки не люблять. На мій погляд, вони не поважають себе та свій час, який могли б витратити хоч на старості на себе.

Можливо, я колись пошкодую про це рішення. Але поки жива і можу сама за себе відповідати, хочу відпочити душею і тілом. Не думати про когось, а насолоджуватись моментами.

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