You Stay Home with the Little One—I’m Going Alone to My Brother’s Wedding Yesterday, my husband cam…

Stay with the little one. Ill go to my brothers wedding on my own.

So, my husband came home from work yesterday and he was acting a bit odd.

I asked him about the wedding and he immediately looked down at his shoes. Then he said hed be going to the wedding alone…

What about me? I was honestly surprised.

And then he said, Love, my January pay packet was a bit thin. So Ill probably just go to the wedding by myself. You stay here with our daughter. Honestly, dont worry. Ill only be away for three days, I need to stay in a hotel, eat, and obviously buy a present for the bride and groom.

We were still a young family really, living in a small one-bedroom flat my mother-in-law had given us. I was on maternity leave. Our daughter, Lily, was almost two. I wasnt rushing back to workI didnt have anyone else to look after her. Daves parents had already done enough giving us the flat, so we were grateful for that, you know what I mean?

My mum was doing her own thing. Shed picked up extra shifts at work, kept herself busy. She always said if I really needed her to watch Lily because I was starting a job or something urgent, shed be there straight away. But things like buying myself a new dress or getting my hair done? Not a chance. She wasnt going to babysit for that.

I know exactly what shes like. She takes a little holiday abroad every year, and she spends basically every weekend getting pampered at the beauty salon and spa.

There was never any real drama at home. When Dave was around, I could go out and do the odd errand or just escape for a bit. Truthfully, he isnt too fussed about me nipping outhe lets me go, but only occasionally and not for long.

But then this wedding invitation landed.

Daves little brother was getting married. Wed have to go to another city for three days. So I begged my mum to come stay with Lily. I mean, its a weddingsort of a big deal. Only for three days, and Lily is really quite sweet, not a difficult child at all.

Mum tried to put her foot down at first, but eventually let out a big sigh and arranged to take three days off work. I was honestly thrilled. After almost two years stuck at home with a toddler, I thought Id finally get a tiny break.

But all of those dreams crashed down when Dave made his little announcement.

This could have been the first proper event for me, you know? Id spent an entire year breastfeeding, barely left the house at all, and at the end of it no one ever wanted to watch Lily for me. Meanwhile, Dave was always off at work dos or business trips.

Honestly, I barely knew his younger brother. And the fiancée? Had only seen her in a photo.

I was so gutted. But Dave didnt really seem to care. He just thought it was perfectly normal.

Come on, love, he said, your mum was proper grumpy about having Lily and wants a bit of peace. Let her rest, eh? No need to make anyone uncomfortable. If she doesnt want to, she doesnt want to. Besides, you dont really know my family. Whats the point for you? Your job is taking care of Lily. Ill go, have a few drinks, and come back.

So I thought, you know what? Fine, no one goes. Why should Dave get to decide what I do?

And honestly, dont you think the mum and the husband here are being a bit cheeky? Of course, Grandma isnt obligated to babysit her granddaughter, but she could be a bit thoughtful and think of me for once.

And Daves just not getting it. Ive given everything to our daughter, devoted all of my time, and I deserve a break too.

If he truly loves me, he should understand…

The poor woman in this story is left feeling so helpless. Shes totally dependent on her husband, and theres no one else around to help out.

Id love to hear what people think about a situation like this. Fingers crossed she manages to sort things out and gets to speak her mind to her husband.

Girls, dont forgetwere in England, its a free country! You can say what you think, nothing terrible will happen. Its not as if your husbands going to threaten divorce just because you ask him for something. And if he does, those feelings clearly werent genuine anyway. Respect each other and give each other a bit of happiness, thats all Im saying.