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Я не піду на весілля дочки, яка не запросила свого вітчима.

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Моя дочка розбила мені серце. Я думала, що вона вміє бути вдячною, що в свої 25 років вона може бачити правду, розрізняти добро від байдужості. Але її вчинок довів протилежне — гірке, болюче протилежне. Вона не запросила на своє весілля вітчима, мого чоловіка Віктора, який виховував її з дев’яти років, вкладаючи душу в кожен її крок. Зате запросила біологічного батька, який всі ці роки не проявляв до неї інтересу. Після такого у мене немає найменшого бажання бути присутньою на цьому святі зради.

Розлучення з моїм першим чоловіком, Олегом, було неминучим, як гроза після затишшя. Останні чотири роки нашого шлюбу я трималася лише завдяки своїй витримці та на вмовляннях свекрухи, яка просила терпіти її недолугого сина. Але всьому є межа, і мій терпець урвався, коли дочці, Світлані, виповнилося сім. Її батько завжди ставив родину на останнє місце. Він спілкувався з нею лише трохи підвипивши, до того як напивався до нестямності. Міг зникати на дні, а повернувшись, доводив свою правоту кулаками, залишаючи синці не лише на мені, але й на моєму серці.

Коли я дізналася про його коханку, це стало останньою краплею. Думка, що якась інша жінка купилася на цей “скарб”, остаточно отямила мене. Я подала на розлучення без жодних вагань. Олег навіть не намагався врятувати родину — зібрав свої речі, розбив дзеркало в передпокої і пішов із піднятою головою, як герой якоїсь драми. Свекруха, яка раніше ридала над долею свого “бідного хлопчика”, перетворилася на справжню мегеру. Вона звинувачувала мене у всьому, намагалася переконати Світлану, що це я вигнала її “люблячого татуся”, хоча він сам давно викреслив нас зі свого життя.

Світлана завжди тяглася до батька більше, ніж до мене. Я була суворою — виховувала, навчала, змушувала сидіти над уроками. А він з’являвся рідко, у доброму настрої, з дешевими цукерками та порожніми обіцянками. Коли ж приходив злий, я кидалася захищати доньку від його люті, заслоняючи її собою. Тому в її пам’яті він залишився якимось казковим лицарем, а я — вічною наглядачкою. Пояснювати їй правду було марно: свекруха отруїла її розум, а Світлана тужила за “добрим татком”, який насправді не вартував і ломаного гроша. Я стиснула зуби і продовжувала боротися за неї. Через рік свекруха померла, тиск на доньку ослаб, але вона все одно продовжувала ідеалізувати батька і звинувачувати мене в його відсутності.

Коли Світлані було дев’ять, я зустріла Віктора у нашому містечку під Львовом. Він мені одразу сподобався — добрий, надійний, з теплою усмішкою. Я закохалася, і він відповів взаємністю. Але я боялася його втратити, тому чесно попередила: у мене є донька, і вона може його не прийняти, йому доведеться нелегко. Віктор не відступив. Він зробив мені пропозицію, знаючи, що попереду чекають труднощі. І вони почалися одразу: Світлана закатувала істерики, грубила, провокувала його на кожному кроці. Я думала, він здасться — кому охота терпіти образи і скандали? Але він залишився. За шістнадцять років він лише двічі підвищив на неї голос — і то заслужено. Він возив її на змагання, забирав з вечірок, купував одяг, жодного разу не дорікнувши. Навіть її навчання в університеті оплатив він, а не її хвалений біологічний батько.

В останніх класах Світлана почала ставитися до нього спокійніше. Не нападала, але й вдячності не виявляла. Я сподівалася, що з часом вона зрозуміє, якою рідкісною людиною є Віктор — не кожний вітчим так турбується про чужу дитину. Я знала, що вона іноді бачиться з Олегом. Не втручалася у їхні справи, але кожен її день народження розривав мені серце: вона чекала його дзвінка до опівночі, а він так і не дзвонив. І все одно чекала — рік за роком, ніби сліпа.

Після школи вона поїхала навчатися до іншого міста. Повернувшись, оселилася з хлопцем, з яким зустрічалася з третього курсу. А потім оголосила про весілля. Я була впевнена, що Віктор буде там, поряд з нами. Але вона викреслила його зі списку гостей. Він намагався приховати біль, але я бачила, як його очі потьмяніли. Світлана кинула мені в обличчя:

— На весіллі буде мій батько. Як ти уявляєш його і Віктора разом? Хочеш влаштувати цирк?

Я задихнулася від обурення:

— Ти запросила батька, який плюнув на твоє життя, і викреслила людину, яка тебе виховувала? Ти невдячна! Я не піду на твоє весілля. Звертайся тепер за всім до свого “батька”.

Вона намагалася щось сказати, але я вже грюкнула дверима.

Вдома Віктор вмовляв мене передумати: мовляв, вона єдина донька, це її день. Але я не можу. Вона чітко показала, що для неї важливо. Ми з Віктором стільки років боролися за неї, а вона досі обожнює того, хто її покинув. Хай так. Я умиваю руки — досить з мене цього болю і розчарувань.

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