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Мій чоловік завжди наводив мені приклад своєї матері. Я повернула йому його.

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Мій чоловік завжди ставив у приклад свою матір. Віддала йому його назад.

Ця ситуація досить типова. Я вийшла заміж у 25 років. Рік по тому народила доньку. У нашій родині все йшло добре. Але з часом чоловік почав називати мене ледаркою. Мовляв, я відпочиваю в декретній відпустці та отримую копійки, хоча заробляла вже тоді майже стільки ж, як і він.

Є багато правди в тому, що треба перевірити прив’язаність сина до матері до шлюбу. З самого початку можна було запідозрити, що щось не так. Але я була сліпа і глуха.

Мій чоловік постійно ставив мені у приклад свою матір. Вона обробляла город, працювала у бухгалтерії, виховувала двох дітей і прекрасно давала собі раду. А я? Позмінна робота і загалом на тимчасовому контракті.

Я робила все можливе, щоб бути як моя свекруха. Допомагала їй в саду, прибирала дім, а коли донька пішла до школи, робила з нею домашні завдання. На жаль, клопоти лише збільшилися. Я мусила терпіти претензії і залежність від чоловіка. Не хотіла бути розлученою і залишити дитину без батька.

Але всі знають, чим більше дозволяєш, тим важче на тебе тиснуть. Я пояснювала чоловіку, що втомлююся на одній роботі, а на другу у мене не вистачить сил. Тоді він сказав, що якщо це так, то стільки ж із своєї зарплати віддасть родині, а решту забере собі. Наші стосунки зависали на волосинці, а потім зовсім обірвалися. Загалом, розпочалася незгода.

З того часу я зрозуміла, що так далі бути не може. Втомилася від його скарг, моралей і постійних згадок про його матір. Крапкою стало його твердження, що якщо я не захочу знайти нормальну роботу, то він піде до мами. Я була рада, що він до цього додумався. Мені знадобилося три роки, щоб повернути його свекрусі. Знайшла іншу роботу. У той час я переїхала з дитиною до орендованої квартири. Не хочу розповідати про те, через що довелося пройти. Ми розлучилися і ділили майно. Тоді і стався скандал.

А тепер я живу в спокої разом з дочкою. Іноді приходить моя мама, а я весела і щаслива без чоловіка.

У мене є власне житло і улюблена робота. У мене не все є, але я маю те, що мені потрібно. Лише родичі постійно намагаються мене з кимось познайомити. Дехто вважає мене розлученою без перспектив. Через це, кажуть, не варто перебирати. Але навіщо мені це? У мене вже є все необхідне для життя. У мене є любляча дочка і мама, яка допомагає. Хочеться поставити статус: “Молода, гарна, не прагну знайомств”. Я задоволена, не хочу псувати все шлюбом. А мій колишній чоловік теж щасливий із мамою.

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