My Daughter Has a Lazy Boyfriend Who Lives in Her Flat and Doesn’t Pay the Bills

My husband and I have always considered ourselves a respectable family. It’s our first and only marriage, and weve been together for twenty-five years. Throughout our life together, we’ve made it a point never to argue in front of our daughter, and have always shown each other kindness and care. In truth, it’s been a happy marriage. Ive always hoped that our own example would inspire our daughter to find the same sort of happiness, that shed build her own family one day, full of love and mutual respect. They say children follow the example their parents set.

Yet, this is where things become complicated. Our daughter isnt married yet, but she does have a boyfriend. Two years ago, my mother passed away, leaving behind a flat in Manchester. After talking it over, my husband and I decided wed let our daughter have it. Now, shes told us that she and her boyfriend have moved in together.

Were not at all bothered that shes found someone and wants to live her own life. The trouble is this boyfriend of hers is just frankly, useless. He doesn’t lift a finger about the housenot a chore, nor does he handle any of the jobs one would consider a mans responsibility. If the kitchen tap starts leaking or a lightbulb needs replacing, our daughter calls her dad immediately. Ive asked her time and again why her boyfriend doesnt take care of any of itshe just shrugs and says nothing. There are always reassurances that hell sort it soon, but I havent seen it happen even once.

To make matters worse, we found out recently that hes currently unemployed. Which means hes not contributing to the bills in any wayour daughter shoulders everything herself. Shes working two jobs just to keep them both afloat. I truly doubt whether he cares about her at all.

I told her honestly that I think shes made a poor choice. She pays me no mindshe truly believes hell change, that things will improve, and she loves him. I cant help loving my daughter with every fibre of my being, but seeing her live like this breaks my heart.