З життя
Ремонт або весілля: хто переможе у сімейній суперечці?
**Щоденник**
Якби хтось сказав мені рік тому, що ми з чоловіком сваритимемося через весілля, я б не повірила. Адже головне — любов, чи не так? Ми з Артемом вже майже п’ять років разом. Живу в моїй квартирі у Львові, яку раніше здавала, а потім зробила мінімальний ремонт і заселилася. Але тепер тут потрібен капітальний ремонт — труби, стіни, електрика, підлога. Це не примха, а необхідність.
Я запропонувала компроміс: розписатися тихо, без ресторанів та галасливих гулянь. Посидіти з батьками вдома, за столом. А зекономлені гривні вкласти в наш дім — у наше справжнє життя. Але в цю логіку втрутилася одна жінка, яку, як виявилося, ніщо не спинить. Моя свекруха — Ганна Іванівна.
— У мене один син! — скрикує вона. — Як це так — без весілля?! Ми всіх родичів запрошували на їхні свята, а тепер що — осоромимося? Всі чекають! Усі вже знають, що у нас буде весілля!
— Але ми вас не просили нікого запрошувати, — спокійно нагадала я.
— Не твоя справа! Я не дозволю, щоб мій син розписався, немов у РАГС за хлібом зайшов!
Проблема в тому, що я цих самих «всіх» родичів ніколи не бачила. Хто вони, звідки, скільки їх — мені невідомо. Але свекруха вже всіх обдзвонила, всіх попередила і навіть дати приблизно намітила.
— У вас з Артемом гроші є, я трохи заощадила, і твої батьки, може, допоможуть — влаштуємо гідне весілля! — радісно оголошує вона, не слухаючи мене.
До речі, мої батьки — на моєму боці. Вони також вважають, що краще вкластися в ремонт, ніж витрачати сотні тисяч на ресторан і білу сукню, яку одягнеш лише раз. Але сказали: якщо ми вирішимо — вони допоможуть. Без тиску. Без ультиматумів.
Але Ганна Іванівна думає інакше. Для неї весілля сина — це не про нас, а про неї. Про те, як вона виглядатиме в очах своїх рідних. І, щоб посилити тиск, перейшла до шантажу:
— Якщо не влаштуєте справжнє весілля, у мене більше немає сина. Ганьба вам!
Я дивилася на Артема. Він мовчав. А потім… почав схилятися на бік матері. Не тому що погоджується, а тому що йому її шкода. Бо вона плаче, страждає, називає себе приниженою і нікому непотрібною.
Я йому чітко сказала:
— Якщо твоя мати хоче весілля, нехай саме його і оплачує. Повністю. Ми до цього не докладемо жодної копійки.
І тоді, звичайно, пролунав останній акорд:
— У мене немає стільки грошей! — вигукнула свекруха. — Але ви ж теж не під мостом живете!
Ось і все. Замкнуте коло. Чоловік — між двох вогнів. Я — в розгубленості. У домі напруга, наче перед бурею. Артем не вимагає від мене весілля, але й вирішити ситуацію не може. Каже, що тепер «негарно» перед родичами: усіх запросили, а тепер мовчанка. А я не розумію — з якого часу чужі люди важливіші за наше майбутнє?
Я не проти весілля, якби це було наше спільне бажання, а не вистава імен Анни Іванівни. Я хочу в домі, де живу, дихати чистим повітрям, а не цвіллю. Хочу нормальні вікна, ванну, нову кухню. Хочу затишок, а не танці заради фото в альбом, які забудуться через рік.
І якщо заради цього треба пройти через бій зі свекрухою — я пройду. Бо мій дім — мій вибір. І якщо Артем дійсно мій чоловік, а не син своєї матері — воІ якщо нам суджено бути разом, він зрозуміє, що справжня родина починається з поваги до спільних рішень, а не з підкорення чужим честолюбним планам.
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