З життя
Сім років потому: випускний найстаршого сина і зустріч з біологічною матір’ю.
Минуло вже майже сім років, як я стою на випускному свого старшого сина. Туди навідалася і його біологічна мати. Вона так поводилася, ніби це вона виховала сина і допомогла йому закінчити школу.
Я двадцять шість років жила сама. Звісно, мала деякі стосунки з чоловіками, але вони ніколи не були серйозними і швидко закінчувались. Я приділяла багато часу роботі, і на відносини не залишалось ні часу, ні сил. Одного разу я зіткнулася з багатьма проблемами одночасно.
Раз на пів року я відвідувала гінеколога. Під час чергового візиту лікарка ошелешила мене: у мене не може бути дітей. Її слова були шоком — безпліддя. Вийшовши з кабінету, я отримала дзвінок з невідомого номера. На тому кінці чоловік повідомив, що моя мама в лікарні. Їй стало погано вдома, викликали швидку і госпіталізували.
Я одразу ж поїхала до лікарні. Лікар запевнив мене, що після кількох днів мама зможе повернутися додому. Лікарем мами був мій майбутній чоловік.
Ми почали спілкуватися завдяки здоров’ю мами. Згодом він запросив мене на побачення, і наша історія розвивалася стрімко: ми стали проводити багато часу разом і через пів року одружилися. Це сталося настільки швидко, що ми самі не зрозуміли, як все сталося. У мого чоловіка вже було двоє дітей: син і донька. Вони не хотіли жити з матір’ю, тож ми забрали їх до себе. Я знала, що не можу мати власних дітей, і сподівалася стати їм другою мамою. Адже мама — це не лише та, що народила, але й та, що виховала.
Коли діти переїхали до нас, я й не підозрювала, що вже ношу під серцем наш спільний скарб. І коли дізналася, що стану мамою втретє, була на сьомому небі від щастя.
Дуже скоро народився наш син, і я виховувала трьох бешкетників. Це було надзвичайно важко. Я майже нічого не встигала. Мрії про хвилинку для себе залишалися мріями. Я постійно займалася домашніми справами та доглядала найменшого сина. Чоловік працював багато, тож на допомогу я лише сподівалася. Я розуміла його, бо годувати родину з п’яти осіб важко.
Я мріяла, що колись наші діти виростуть, і ми зможемо трохи пожити для себе. Я сподівалася, що вони оцінять мої зусилля і скажуть слова вдячності за любов і підтримку.
Через сім років я стояла на випускному старшого сина. Там була і його біологічна мати. Її показність мене здивувала: вона з’явилась так, ніби ніколи не забувала про сина. Але я була більше зосереджена на його святі, ніж на ній.
Коли вечір добігав кінця, випускникам вручили квіти, щоб ті подарували їх тому, кого найбільше цінують. Син підійшов до мене зі словами: “Мамо, дякую за все! Це тобі!” Моє серце застукало швидше, а на очах з’явилися сльози радості. Хоч я не його рідна мама, але для нього найближча. Ці слова і вчинки підтвердили, що я все зробила правильно.
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