You stay with the child. I’m going alone to my brother’s wedding.

Yesterday, my husband returned from work, but he was acting strangely.

I asked him about the upcoming wedding, and he immediately looked down. He said hed be going alone

But what about me? I was genuinely shocked.

He replied, Love, my January salary barely covered anything. So its best if I go to the wedding by myself. You look after our daughter. Nothing bad will happen. Ill be gone for three days, need to stay in a hotel, and have something to eat. And Ill have to buy a present for the bride and groom, of course.

Were still a young family. We live in a one-bedroom flat, which my mother-in-law gave us. Im currently on maternity leave; our daughter is nearly two years old. I havent been in a rush to return to work because theres no one to look after her. Were grateful to my in-laws for the flat as people say, every little helps.

My own mum is very independent; she works extra shifts. Shed made it clear from the beginning that if I desperately needed someone to mind the child while at work, shed step in. But as for buying a new dress and getting my hair done, forget it she wouldnt babysit just for that.

I know my mum well. By the way, she flies abroad every year, and spends most weekends pampering herself at the beauty parlour or getting massages.

There havent been any emergencies in our family so far. When my husbands home, I can get on with my own things. Its true, hes not always thrilled about it and he lets me out only rarely, and only for a short while.

Then came the invitation to the wedding.

My husbands younger brother had decided to tie the knot. Wed need to travel to another city for three days. So I went to mum, asking if she could stay with her granddaughter. After all, a weddings a big deal. Its just three days, and my daughter is a calm child by nature doesnt scream or fuss.

Mum refused for ages, then finally, with a resigned sigh, took three days off work. I was delighted. After two years at home with a toddler, at least at the wedding Id finally get a bit of rest

But then my husbands announcement dashed all my hopes.

For me, this wedding was a real event. Id nursed my child for a whole year without leaving the house. And then, it turned out no one wanted to stay with her. My husband, meanwhile, often went to work functions and business trips.

To be honest, I barely know his brother. Id only seen his fiancée in a photo.

I felt so let down, yet my husband wouldnt see my point of view. He thought it was all perfectly reasonable.

Well, love, for starters your mums not too keen on having our daughter at hers. Let her have a bit of a rest, and you stay home. Why make someone uncomfortable? If she doesnt want to babysit, then dont make her. And besides, you hardly know my family. Whats really the point of this trip for you? Your job is to stay home and look after our daughter. Ill go and Ill come back.

So I decided no one was going. Why should my husband decide what I ought to do?

Who do you think is right in all this?

Personally, I feel both my mum and husband are a bit cheeky. Of course, a grandmother isnt obliged to babysit her granddaughter but surely she could think of her daughter too.

And my husband simply doesnt understand me. Ive devoted so much time to our daughter, and I need a break as well.

He should realise that, if he truly loves his wife

I find myself so sad in this situation, feeling totally dependent on my husband. Theres nobody I can turn to.

It would be interesting to hear what others make of it. I hope that, in the end, Ill be able to resolve things and tell my husband exactly what I think.

Ladies, never forget we live in a free country! Youre allowed to speak up, nothing bad will happen. Its not as if your husband will demand a divorce just because you set a boundary. And even if he did, that would just show his feelings arent genuine. We should respect each other and bring joy where we can.