My Ex-Husband’s Son from His New Marriage Fell Ill – He Asked Me for Financial Help and I Refused!

Im 37 years old. Ive been divorced for a good ten years now. My ex-husband was unfaithful and I couldnt forgive him for it. Hes living with that woman now.

She ended up pregnant, had his child, and then he married her. After everything, Id rather not have anything to do with either of them. I dont bother keeping up with their lives.

My salary treats me wellIm quite comfortable financially. Last week, suddenly, my ex turns up at my door. I hadnt seen him in ages, so seeing him was a genuine shock. I wanted to ask why hed bothered, but before I could say anything, he started talking. He told me his son has just been diagnosed with cancer, and the treatment is going to cost a fortune. He and his wife dont have that kind of money, so apparently, Im the solution.

Its true I have a decent amount set asideI sold the house I inherited from my gran not long ago. He got wind of that, and now hes here for a handout. How perfect everythings lined up for him. How convenient.

I havent decided what to do with the money yet. Id like to buy myself a nice car, but I still need to learn how to drive, and Im always short on time. Either way, its a sizable sum. Im in no rush to part with it. And honestly, would he help me if I fell ill? I doubt it.

You have no idea how desperate we are! he says. Yet hes never cared about how I feel. Nor did his wife. He swapped me out for her without a second thought. When we divorced, we split everything fifty-fifty. He argued he needed it all for his new family. He even tried to get me to pay him for the flatbut luckily, Id bought it before we married, so he had no claim. That saved me. Oh, how hard done by he was! And now hes here, demanding money! Crying about his feelings!

He said hed bring documentation if I didnt believe him. I told him thats not the point. I have no intention of getting involved, even if he swears blind hell pay it all back. His son will need rehab after treatment as well, and that costs too. Frankly, I dont think Id ever see the money again.

Why dont you try the bank for a loan? I asked.

I laid it all out for him, no sugar-coating. He started shouting, threatened to beg at my feet. I want nothing to do with humiliating him. I simply dont want him in my life. He traded me in years ago. Cheated on me. He can just sod off. He said hed come back after Ive had time to think it over. As far as Im concerned, theres nothing to think about.

Some people might say Im heartless for this. Truth is, I just want to manage my own money. Im not going to share it with anyone else. After this conversation, I do feel a bit rough. But I wont help themits a lesson they need, and a fitting consequence for their actions.